Don’t Ask Me How I Am Doing

Photography by Randy J Hilliker, an MFA student at Art Academy University in San Francisco, where he studies Fine Art Photography. Randy has lived most of his life struggling with depression, anxiety, and PTSD from childhood abuse.

About this photo: “A principle that I live by is that if I ask a question it means I want to know the answer. When people I don’t know ask me how’s it going, I often clarify the question by asking how do you mean. There is nothing worse than the blank stare when you get when you tell too much. I hate that awkward silence that comes later. So this image is a depiction of that question. If you ask me, and I don’t think you are genuine in your desire to know the question, “fine” is the standard answer. But there is almost always something underneath. Most days I am doing well, some days are not so good. This image is double layered to show the complexity of the question. The top layer looking at the questioner with beautiful words coming out of my mouth. The bottom, looking away, looking for ways to express my frustration.  So don’t ask me how I am doing if you don’t want to know the answer.

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